THE CAT’S MEOW

FOR WRITERS & READERS E-ZINE®

Where we take care to bring you and yours Stories and Poems for your reading pleasure,

plus Helpful Information of all kinds and Author’s books to purchase!™

Not Your Typical Monthly Electronic Magazine!

 

FEBRUARY 2009

Issue 51, Volume 09, Ezine: ISSN#: 2237-65

PLEASE NOTE: Although this is an Internet based magazine, we have 2,115 (and counting!) subscribers who receive notification every month when a new issue is on this website. So we would like you to know that our subscriber list is NOT made available to others, including companies. We value every subscriber and respect your privacy. Although, we are NOT responsible for website links that do not work unless they have been inserted into the publisher’s corner; then she is responsible, she apologizes and will correct it as soon as possible… However, please notify us at The Publisher’s Boxif any links are not working or are the wrong links. Thank you!

 

 

IN THIS ISSUE:

 

IMPORTANT NOTICE!

Sometime this year you will be able to access each individual authors work along with the different sections of this magazine…

Plus we have a nice surprise in store for you with this entire website; so stay tuned!

Please be patient with us as we continue to improve The Cat’s Meow for Writers & Readers.

 

 

PUBLISHER & EDITOR’S CORNER:

ROSANNE CATALANO, aka R.C.KAYLA

 

 

BIRTHDAY & ANNIVERSARY WISHES CORNER

FOR THE MONTH OF FEBRUARY 2009

 

 

COFFEE HOUSE 4 READERS CORNER

CONTRIBUTORS FOR FEBRUARY 2009:

“In Celebration of Black History Month” and “Finally America – A Black History Celebration”

( Poems )

By NANETTE M. BUCHANAN

“Even More Food For Thought,” “Congress,” “Shame,” “Greed” and “Don’t Be Fooled”

( non fiction Story Article and Poems )

By CONRAD S. CARDINAL

“Psychology and the African Violet Lady [Part I],” “Psychology and the African Violet Lady [Part II],”

“Psychology and the African Violet Lady [Part III]” and “Psychology and the African Violet Lady [Part IV]”

( non fiction Story Articles )

By CAROL ROACH

“Coincidence,” “Real Heroes,” “Not Home Yet,” “A Dream” and “Hand in Hand”

( non fiction Stories )

By JOSEPH J. MAZZELLA

“To Have and To Hold,” “My Way” and “Reality”

( Poems )

By SANDRA L. HOYNACKI

“The Story Behind Valentine’s Day,” “The Night God Fell Asleep,” “The Mysterious Stranger” and “The Proper Role of a Pastor”

( non fiction Stories and a Letter to the Editor )

By CHRIS HANSEN

“A Greeting to the Month of February,” “Springtime in February,” “Winter’s Wrath,”

 “February Should Make Up Its Mind” and “A Tribute to Our Presidents”

( Poems )

By CYNTHIA GROOPMAN

“The Capgras Shift”

( fiction Short Story )

By SAM VAKNIN

“Love at First Sight”

( non fiction Love Story )

By HELEN DOWD

“Reincarnation [ Part II ]”

( non fiction Article )

By DON R. CRAWFORD

“Lost Cat wc-429”

( fiction Short Story )

By MICHAEL ZERGER

“People I Have Known and Respected”

( non fiction Story Article )

By G. DAVID SCHWARTZ

 

 

 

HELPFUL NONFICTION ARTICLES

CONTRIBUTORS FOR FEBRUARY 2009:

“How Cupid Became the Symbol for Valentine’s Day,” “How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day with Your New Girlfriend”

and “Black History Month in Canada”

( non fiction Helpful Articles )

By CAROL ROACH

“Valentine’s Time”

( non fiction Helpful Article )

By EMMA LOUISE-SMITH

“Valentine’s Day and the International Language of Love”

( non fiction Helpful Article )

By JONATHAN A. SMITH

“Celebrating Valentine’s Day on a Budget”

( non fiction Helpful Article )

By SHIRLEY McNEAL

“Go Beyond “I Love You” This Valentine’s Day”

( non fiction Helpful Article )

By LILIA L. FALLGATTER

“The Evolution of Traditional Valentine’s Day Cards to Valentine E-cards”

( non fiction Helpful Article )

By ALLISON RYAN

“Single on Valentine’s Day? 5 Activities You Can Do to Beat the Valentine’s Day Blues”

( non fiction Helpful Article )

By TEREZ WILLIAMSON

 

 

OFF THE PRESS! CORNER

LOOKING FOR A GREAT BOOK TO READ?

WELL LOOK NO FURTHER…BOOKS BY MANY AUTHORS CAN BE PURCHASED RIGHT HERE!

 

 

 

PUBLISHER & EDITOR’S CORNER

 

ROSANNE CATALANO, aka R.C.KAYLA

 

 Hello my dear readers! Thank you for joining us this celebratory month; a month in which not only love is celebrated (Valentine’s Day) but also the month in which those of African ancestry celebrate their heritage (Black History Month), the month of America’s 1st and 16th Presidents’ birthdays (George Washington and Abraham Lincoln, respectively; which evolved into Presidents Day), Frederick Douglass’ birthday (an African American icon), and National Heart Month where all of us are given a chance to recognize the importance of staying heart smart and treating heart disease if we have it. So there is a lot to celebrate this month, including my dear friend CAROL ROACH being voted The #1 “Best Magazine/Ezine Editor” in the Preditors & Editors’ Readers Poll for 2008!

 

 

     CONGRATULATIONS CAROL, you and Storytime Tapestry truly deserve this Readers Honor! If you would like to send your congratulations to my dear friend and this magazine’s sister publication, email CAROL at: winterose@videotron.ca  By the way, I was voted The #8 “Best Magazine/Ezine Editor,” which also places me in the Top Ten (higher than I was in 2007). So I thank those who voted for me in the 2008 Preditors & Editors’ Readers Poll!

 

 

   Now, I’m going to ask you two questions: do you think marketing your book is expensive, or are you looking for ways to get the word out about a new hot novel you’ve written? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then you must read PHYLLIS ZIMBLER MILLER’s Special Report SOCIAL MEDIA CAMPAIGN FOR BOOK AUTHORS! For only $14.95, PHYLLIS will show & tell you how to use Facebook, Twitter and other social media websites to sell your book or novel. Before you know it you’ll be conducting your own ‘free’ online social media book promotion campaign! So don’t miss out on this great opportunity to learn how to promote your fabulous novel! Just click on the link above to obtain your Special Report today. I assure you that you won’t be sorry!

 

 

 

    REMINDER BEFORE I CONTINUE: As I told you in the December and January magazines, I am so sorry about this but it has come to my attention that emails going to the ‘new’ email address I told you about in December’s issue are bouncing back to their senders so, until I work this out with our web hosting company, please do continue to send all inquiries and submissions to: ctrosanne@verizon.net

 

 

 

News from Our Contributor: ROGER DEAN KISER!

 

     “As some of you know, my self published book “The White House Boys” was pulled from the market and the new book has been released by HCI (Chicken Soup publishers). Most books and stories I write are very tame in language and content, especially when dealing with child sexual abuse issues. But in this book the coarse language was necessary in order to portray the cruel and deplorable treatment many boys received while in the care of the Florida School for Boys at Marianna in the 1950s-1960s. A major news story will most likely break on CNN in the next two to three weeks. There seems to be much interest in the 32 graves located out in the woods but this is the least of the problem. I suspect, from my investigation, that more than 50 to 200 boys came up missing during those years. That is yet to be proven as fact, but time will tell the truth and it is not going to be a pretty picture when the painting is finished. Murder, rape and the brutal beatings of boys as young as nine became commonplace. For years no one would believe that a Nazi style concentration camp existed right here in America.”

ROGER

 

 

     The book, “The White House Boys,” is now available at Amazon.com at this link:

 

http://www.amazon.com/white-house-boys-american-tragedy/dp/075731421X/ref=sr%2011%201?ie=UTF8&qid=1229629835&sr=11-1

 

 

     The purchase of ROGER DEAN KISER’S books helps him to continue his work with abused children:

http://www.geocities.com/trampolineone

 

     The White House Boys Website:

http://www.geocities.com/fsbmarianna

 

 

 

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News from Our Contributor: ROSALEE S. WILSON!

 

 

     “Hey Rosanne, my book 'Elijah The Penguin' just won a 2008 Children's Literature Award! Do you think you could print this in your magazine? I have attached a picture of my book. I would gladly appreciate it! My book can be ordered at Amazon.com, Borders, and Booksamillion.com, or Living Waters Publishing Company. I am so excited!!!! Glad you are back online!

 

 

     Sincerely,

     Rosalee S. Wilson       
     Author of Romance and Childrens Books

 

    Living Waters Publishing Company is pleased to announce our latest Award:

 

 

ABC Childcare Development Center recently awarded us with the

2008 Excellence in Children's Storytime Literature Award

 


The following two books were named in this Award:

 

Benjamin P. Blizzard: Welcome to Christmastown by Karen Nivens

Elijah the Penguin by Rosalee S. Wilson

 

 


     As part of the prize, they have agreed to order 10 copies of each book, one for each of their daycares. The books will be used for their story time and featured in the daycare's monthly newsletter that goes out to more than 12,000 people.


    


     Congratulations to the authors, Karen and Rosalee! Great work! Y’all make us look good!

 

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    Congratulations to ROSALEE S. WILSON on her book, “Elijah The Penguin,” winning the 2008 Excellence in Children’s Storytime Literature Award!

 

 

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ATTENTION ALL WRITERS!

IMPORTANT * WARNING * UPDATE

FROM BEST SELLING AUTHOR

DEBRA SHIVELEY WELCH:

 

 

UPDATE, FEB 9, 2009:

 

     Per DEBRA SHIVELEY WELCH, the website www.articleitem.com has been shut down for now. Yay that this site which based its entire content on plagiarized authors’ works is no longer operating, however, we must keep checking to make sure they stay out of commission!

 

 

     “There is a web site www.articleitem.com which has based, from what I can tell, its entire content on plagiarism. In the span of one week, I have found two articles of mine posted to the site under the name of another author. The first was "Sometimes Life is a Metaphor," claimed by "Fantoni," which I got taken down,

 

 

     Google Web Alert for: "Sometimes Life Is a Metaphor"

 

     Sometimes Life is a Metaphor - articleitem
     Sometimes Life is a Metaphor. ... Sometimes Life is a Metaphor. by: Fantoni. Every spring, Chris and I order butterfly caterpillars. We have an inexpensive...

 

 

     But it has happened again:

 

     http://www.articleitem.com/Article/Straw---A-Childhood-Memory/106128

 

 

     This one is claiming authorship of my book as well!

 

Google Web Alert for: "Straw - A Childhood Memory"

Straw - A Childhood Memory - articleitem
Straw - A Childhood Memory. ... Straw - A Childhood Memory. By: Kevin Kennedy. Our neighbor spread straw on his lawn, so that the ducks and geese will not ...


 

 

     ArticleItem.com uses ArticleDashboard as its source for articles, www.articledashboard.com.  As far as I have been able to determine, they credit the proper author, but when ArticleItem.com gets a hold of them, they strip the author's name and information from the article and put a false author's name on the work.

 

 

 

     I don't want to name the different ezine article hosting sites for fear of getting into trouble, but if you have submitted anything to one of these places, you must check this out thoroughly to see what of yours has been stolen.

 

 

 

     To see what I am talking about, go here:  http://www.articleitem.com/profile/Kevin-Kennedy/80  This is the profile of the person claiming to write my article and my book.  Do you really believe he wrote all of those articles? Of course not.  Note he is also claiming to write poetry, recipes -- you name it.

 

 

 

     So go and see if your work has been stolen.  If it has, go to apps.DebraShiveleyWelch.net/blog and learn what to do about it and how to take it down.  The name of the hosting site is included in my blog.

 

 

     Finally, they are not getting the articles from here.  Again, it is from ezine hosting sites that allow members to download or "publish" stories.

 

 

     We must stop this pernicious site!”

 

      

    DEBRA SHIVELEY WELCH,

     Best Selling Author of Son of My Soul - The Adoption of Christopher, A Very Special Child - An Adoption Story - co-author: Jesus Gandhi Oma Mae Adams"; scribe for Christopher Bullfrog Catcher: http://www.DebraShiveleyWelch.net



I firmly believe that I have received the same child I was meant to receive whether I gave birth or adopted.

The same soul, the same entity was meant to be mine from the beginning of time.  Debra Shiveley Welch, "A Very Special Child"

                                         

 

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Now, Calls for Submissions for all writers!

 

 

     From CAROL ROACH, publisher of Storytime Tapestry:

 

     “Storytime Tapestry is in need of more stories, please keep them coming in. Also help support the continued running of Storytime Tapestry by joining me on myLot and getting paid while we talk to each other and others all over the world:  http://www.mylot.com/?ref=winterose  (if the link doesn’t work just cut and paste).     From my son Steven Roach:”

    “I was thinking you should advertise this link regularly in your newsletter (if the link doesn’t work just cut and paste)

http://greenhorse.com/join_now.ghc?r=177952857  Tell them it would help support the newsletter and they can earn money from it. They need to sign up and install it but they don't need to do anything else. They just do what they normally would anyways on the net and they earn money while it’s on. In other words they just keep it running while they are online. Its small doesn't take up much system resources and they can earn more if they advertise their own link and get people under them as well. Let them know some people make 5-10$ a day on it and it’s been open since 2002.”

 

 

 

     From ROSANNE CATALANO, publisher and editor of this magazine:

 

     “The Cat’s Meow for Writers & Readers needs more helpful nonfiction articles, so please do keep submitting those nonfiction articles. To see what kind of helpful articles we accept for publication, please read ‘Submission Guidelines’ on this website, then e-mail your work to: ctrosanne@verizon.net Thank you.”

 

 

 

     From ERNEST DEMPSEY, co-publisher of The Audience Review:

 

 

     I would like to tell you about our Call for Opinion on ‘Intelligence among Men and Women’ to be included in our upcoming issue of the print quarterly publication “The Audience Review.” You are welcome to submit your opinion as well as to notify your readers about submitting theirs too. To read the submission guidelines (there are only a few), please visit: http://cspsapc.blogspot.com/2008/08/men-or-women-whos-more-intelligent.html

 

     Best regards,

 

     Ernest

     Co-Publisher of The Audience Review

 

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AN EXCITING BI-MONTHLY POETRY CONTEST FOR ALL POETS!

 

High Prairie Poets

New Mexico State Poetry Society Bi-Monthly Contests!

 

ELIGIBILITY: ALL POETS – U.S. and Worldwide. Poems must be in English, aligned on left margin of paper, (Do not center poem on page),

12 point Font is a must. DON’T “CAP” Titles.

 


DEADLINE: POSTMARKED BY The 20th OF THE MONTH.

 

 
LINE LIMIT: There is a 32 line limit.

 


ENTRY FEE: $2.00 entry fee for the first poem and $1.00 each for additional poems. NO EMAIL ENTRIES.

 


PRIZES: $25.00 1st Place; $10.00 2nd Place; $5.00 3rd Place; 3 HM’S; WE DO NOT PUBLISH ANY POEMS.

 


SUBMISSION: Please send TWO COPIES of each poem (poet‘s choice), ONE BLANK and THE OTHER WITH NAME, ADDRESS,

and TITLE OF POEM.  DO NOT SEND COVER LETTER OR BIOGRAPHY; One Poem on a Page; 66 characters per line. No Themes.
NO OBSCENE LANGUAGE.

 

 


NOTIFICATION: By the tenth of the following month, IF you include a SASE. ALWAYS INCLUDE A “SASE.”

 

 

 
JUDGING: Qualified, blind judging; Judge’s decisions are final.

 

 

 

NEXT CONTEST:   MARCH 20, 2009.

 

 


ADDRESS:

SEND ALL ENTRIES TO:  CAROL DEE MEEKS, Silver Arrow Estates, 2601 South Elm Place, Apt. #108, Broken Arrow, Oklahoma 74012.

 

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YOU DEFINITELY DON’T WANT TO MISS OUT ON THIS GREAT INFORMATIVE eBOOK!

    

   BETH ANN ERIKSON, “The Queen Bee of Filbert Publishing,” wrote an excellent book that makes a wonderful gift for the writer in your life! In her book, Beth helpfully guides you on how to earn more than pennies for your freelance writing. To purchase her excellent eBook titled 101 No Cost or Low Cost Techniques to Turbo Charge Your Freelance Income,” go to Filbert Publishing today!

 

 

 

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    Don’t forget to check out the Helpful Links’ and Home Page on this web site for other interesting, fun and informative sites for you! Plus the link to The SHINE! Journal, where PAMELA TYREE GRIFFIN is the publisher and editor, plus a contributor to this magazine! Also check out our new banner links to the Boomer Babes Rock ezine (for the Baby Boomers out there!) and The Animal Rescue Site.com for the animal lovers!

 

 
     Please do WELCOME our contributors via email, or visit their websites, after you have read their
 stories, poems and articles.
[Email addresses and websites are listed in the author’s bio.]

 

 

BEFORE I GO –

DON’T FORGET TO PICK UP YOUR COPY

OF MIRRORED IMAGES;

A COLLECTION OF MY STORIES & POEMS

JUST FOR YOU!

 

 

See you all in March… until then,

 

WISHING YOU ALL

A HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY,

A HAPPY BLACK HISTORY MONTH,

A HAPPY PRESIDENT’S DAY

AND

A HAPPY NATIONAL HEART MONTH!

 

 

Copyright © February 2009 Rosanne Catalano.

 

 

BIRTHDAY & ANNIVERSARY

WISHES CORNER!

 

HAPPY

BIRTHDAY TO:

 

SUSAN LOUDERMAN, Birthday: February 8th

 

 

JEFFREY SHAR, Birthday: February 14th

 

 

MEGAN B. CATALANO, Birthday: February 17th

 

 

 

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO:

 

 

NO ANNIVERSARIES THIS MONTH

 

 

To see your birthday and/or anniversary wishes here,

Email us with your name (first & last, or just first name) and birth-day or anniversary date (year is optional for both)!

 

 

COFFEE HOUSE 4 READERS CORNER!

(Bringing You Published Written Talent

Every Month

for YOUR READING PLEASURE)!

 

 

 

 

 

In Celebration of Black History Month

By

Nanette M. Buchanan

Author of: “Thoughts – A Poetic Journey” and “Family Secrets, Lies & Alibis”

 

 

 

 

 

Where would we be without our history?
Who are we, how did we become to be?



A background of lifestyles, cultures and African Nations
A storybook of accomplishments and challenges
Told generation after generation



Our history is a reason for our presence to be...
Our history is as important as roots are to a tree.


Copyright © 1998 Thoughts
Nanette M. Buchanan

Get your copy of Thoughts.....e-book $10.00 www.lulu.com

In Celebration of Black History month take this Poetic Journey with me.
See my Blog - Make your comments- Let's rejoice and celebrate together
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Finally America – A Black History Celebration

By

Nanette M. Buchanan

Author of: “Thoughts – A Poetic Journey” and “Family Secrets, Lies & Alibis”

 

 

 

 

 

The years have gone by at a rapid pace
So much to be thankful for, those who never got tired,
those who have gone on but ran a good race



Those we look at differently
Now that the messages that they spoke and shouted have become clear.
Those who were killed, those who died, stood with pride and honor
Today we understand why we should shed our tears



This Black History month has new meaning to all races
Stirs emotions deep inside
Even if you refuse to express it, as an American
You must share in the new pride



This month as always we honor the accomplishments of ancestors,
Those who prayed knowing there was truth in their dreams
This month we honor those who understand what freedom means



As a people we have crossed waters, cultivated the land,
Fought for equality and education; our continuous plight.
Their courage, passed on through generations, hero after hero,
Harriet Tubman, Rosa Parks, Malcolm X and Martin Luther King,
So many had the foresight



This Black History Month as we pay homage
honoring and celebrating those who refused to look back
Finally America embraced all it's people
Finally America became a part of our movement and included those.....
who are Black.


Copyright © 2009 Nanette M. Buchanan.

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 ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

 

Nanette M. Buchanan is a native of Newark, New Jersey, in the USA. She is a proud mother, wife and grandmother currently employed by the State of New Jersey as a Correction's Officer. Writing has always been a hobby for this published author but she is looking forward to retiring and writing full time. Nanette’s writing began in 1975 while she was attending Rutgers University in New Brunswick, NJ; poetry, childrens stories, and now novels, are a part of her writing experience.  Her poems have been read publicly, sold as greeting cards, and as personalized gifts. Her first e-book publication "Thoughts – A Poetic Journey" is available online. The decision to self-publish her first novel in 2007 came from her family, friends and those who have read many of her other works and gave her constant support and encouragement. Family Secrets, Lies & Alibi’s,” her latest book is an adult fiction/romantic suspense with a dramatic twist available online at www.ipendesigns.com. Nanette's work can be viewed on her website: www.ipendesigns.com or http://www.myspace.com/ipendesigns. Questions, comments and reviews are welcomed at: ipendesigns@gmail.com



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Even More Food for Thought

By

 Conrad S. Cardinal

 

 

 

 

     If you’ve read some of my articles you probably think that I’m a religious fanatic. Believe me when I tell you that I’m far from it. In fact I wish I was more conservative and much better at being a Christian. What drives me is the understanding that there are certain lines that must be drawn and we must not cross them. I believe there are some things that simply have to be if we want to continue to be the most successful and freest nation in the world.

 

 

 

     Even though times are tough right now, we must not give in or allow ourselves to be drawn into crossing those lines I spoke of. I know so many very wonderful and intelligent folks that are willing to give up some of their rights in the hope that the government will take care of them. One of our problems is that we’ve already given Congress and the Supreme Court too much power. We base our lifestyle on our ability to be successful because of our God given talents. We call it a free enterprise system, where one can be as successful as they have the ability to be. In socialist nations where the government makes the decisions one gets only what they‘re allowed. Including how many children they may have and for women, whether or not they are allowed to enjoy their sexuality. I doubt that we want to move towards this kind of control.

 

 

 

     The choice is between big government and more control being put back into the hands of the people. This is how it started out, but many of the people we have elected over the years have come to believe that we are not smart enough to handle that kind of responsibility. In some ways they may be right because we’ve just sat back and let it happen. This time we are at a much more critical time in our history and giving in now may be irreversible.

 

 

 

     So you probably want to know what lines I don’t want us to cross. Don’t allow them to put God in the closet; maintain a strong bond. Don’t give up our God given Constitutional rights. Maintain leadership that is patriotic and believes in God’s role in America’s success. Don’t accept any thing less than our forefathers fought for and provided for.

 

 

 

     Finally, many are blaming the former president for all our trouble. I should like to point out a couple of things that many of us are overlooking. A portion of the blame for our difficulties now can be placed in the lap of the previous president. He depleted our military and when faced with the opportunity of taking care of one of our foes, he did nothing. Secondly, the president has only one third of the power, Congress has most of the power and I believe this is where we have been sold out. Last, since Congress has become more liberal, things have gotten worse.

 

 

Copyright © Conrad S. Cardinal.

 

 

 

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Congress

By

 Conrad S. Cardinal

 

 

 

Ignorance abounds in America; the blind
leading the blind
Listening to the media, accepting lies as
though we had no mind

 

 

The president is being blamed for all
that is wrong
We follow this tune like the pied pipers song

 

 

Realize that Congress holds two thirds
of the power
Congress is manipulating and taking our
freedoms hour by hour

 

 

We changed the dominant party in Congress,
to make things right
It didn’t get better,  taxes may go up, we’ll
have a harder fight

 

 

Congress is running a muck with power,
spending selfishly
Satisfying personnel agendas, acting unscrupulously

 

 

If you think this will change with a new
president, you’re dreaming
It will stay just as it is, Congress blatantly scheming.

 

 

Copyright © Conrad S. Cardinal.

 

 

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Shame

By

 Conrad S. Cardinal

 

 

 

Life, fragile as a humming birds wing
A careless moment can bring about deaths sting

 

 

Made up of choices we must make
each day, a day of discovery; was
our choice a mistake?

 

 

So preoccupied with foolish things
We often miss blessings life brings

 

 

How could we drift so far into the abyss?
There is so much more to life, that
we simply dismiss

 

 

Most times its sorrow that causes us to pray
A shame, wouldn’t you say

 

 

What a sad commentary on the human race
At times our choices must cause God
to turn his face.

 

 

Copyright © Conrad S. Cardinal.

                                   

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Greed

By

 Conrad S. Cardinal

 

 


So many have traded happiness for sorrow
because of greed
Their life flowed peacefully until this monster was freed

 

 

Once it has been unleashed there’s no calling it back
In no time it turns white to black

 

 

More often than not true riches are lost
Love, family and friends are gone, a
terrible cost

 

 

It’s only at the end of the day that some realize their mistake
They suffer rejection; loneliness is hard to take

 

 

Others ride it out, thinking they don’t need a friend
When their next journey begins, I wonder
if they think the means was worth the end?

 

 

Copyright © Conrad S. Cardinal.

                                   

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Don’t Be Fooled

By

 Conrad S. Cardinal

 

 

 

 

America became a world power because they believed
She is in danger because we are being deceived

 

 

There are many in our nation whose
agenda is our demise
Many well meaning people are refusing
to open their eyes

 

 

No one wants to be at war; the cost is high
It hurts to hear of our soldiers that are
wounded or die

 

 

However, how can they say stopping
the evil in Iraq is wrong?
The murder and rape were allowed to
go on too long

 

 

Evil like this must be stopped wherever it may exist
Those being oppressed must be helped to resist

 

 

Please don’t give in to the socialism that
is being presented as liberalism
Instead, lets look to those whose agenda
is patriotism.

 

 

 

Copyright © Conrad S. Cardinal.

 

 

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

 

 

Conrad S. Cardinal is a published poet and writer who was born in Brooklyn, New York USA, and played professional baseball. However, due to an injury, he retired from professional baseball and moved to Las Vegas, Nevada USA. Once there he worked as a security guard, slot machine floor man, and then as a stagehand for 40 years. However the last 18 years of his career, Conrad ran a theatrical welding shop. In his own words Conrad says, “Believe it or not, during that time I took seminary extension courses through the Southern Baptist Home Mission Department. I was a licensed preacher and the associate pastor of a non-denominational church on the Las Vegas strip. I’ve been writing poetry on and off most of my life, and have been very committed to this endeavor since I retired. I like to call my work ‘Essays in Poetry.’ I say this because I try to speak about issues that concern me. It’s also a platform from which I can preach. My wife Nancy and I have been married 30 years and have 7 children, and 11 grandchildren.” Conrad’s work is published in the following: “Storytime Tapestry,” an Internet-based ezine, and “The Cat’s Meow for Writers & Readers Ezine,” an Internet-based literary magazine. He can be reached via email at: Cconseth@aol.com

 

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Psychology and the African Violet Lady [ Part I ]

By

 Carol Roach

Author of: “Picking Up the Pieces: A Woman’s Journey” and “Angels Watching Over Me”

 

 

 

 

 

 

     This story article is the first of a four part series (published here). It was previously published in Storytime Tapestry, Carol’s e-zine, and on Gather.com, and also used as a workshop on Ryse.com.

 

 

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     It occurred to me that most of you know that I am an internet writer, because you have read my stories in various newsletters on the net, but how many of you know that I am a trained therapist with a Masters in counselling psychology?

 

 

 

     Now let me tell you a little about my journey towards getting that degree.

 



     It wasn't until I got to CEGEP that I found out what psychology entailed.

 



     First let me explain that CEGEP in Quebec, which is college in the rest of Canada, is not the same as college in the United States. In Quebec we finish
high school after the 11th grade, and then we go onto CEGEP. CEGEP is a two-year preparatory for a university or a technical training program for students who wish to pursue a career in non-research oriented careers and vocations.

 

 

     The CEGEP system was created in the late 1960s when it occurred to the government that kids of 16 to 17 years of age who were coming straight out of
high school were not mature enough for university; most of them bombed-out during their first year. So a preparatory stage was created known as CEGEP.

 



     In high school, I was not interested in academic study. I followed the crowd, so to speak, but when I got to CEGEP I loved it. I couldn't get enough of it. I think part of my new-found love of learning was that I worked all day from the age of 17 and I had to go to CEGEP at night. I then fully understood the importance of an education.



     When I took my very first psychology course at CEGEP I just knew that I finally found my niche and that one day I would make a
career of it. My grades improved because I was suddenly interested in a subject, whereas in high school I was not. I went from a C student in high school to an A student in CEGEP.

 



     When I finally got to university, I first majored in history for a year then transferred to psychology.

 

 

 

     Now I am going to tell you about what I learned about psychology in the seven years that I studied it. The article will define psychology; explain some of the different branches of psychology, touch on a few therapies and end with the therapy practiced by Dr. Milton Erickson.

 

 

 

To be continued…

 

 

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Psychology and the African Violet Lady [ Part II ]

By

 Carol Roach

Author of: “Picking Up the Pieces: A Woman’s Journey” and “Angels Watching Over Me”

 

 

 

 

 

Defining Psychology

 

 

     Psychology is the study of human behaviour. It covers everything that a person thinks or feels. Since it is all encompassing, you will find psychologists in every field of study under the sun.

 

 

     The history of psychology originated in the antiquities. Yet, it only became a recognized field on its own in the mid 1800's and for this reason, it is known as a fairly new discipline of study. The origins of psychology germinated in the fields of medicine and philosophy. We can thank the ancient Greeks for this.

 

     From the field of science, Hippocrates, known as the father of medicine, was one of the greatest influences on modern-day psychology.

 

     Similarly, Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle, the great ancient Greeks philosophers, were among the greatest influences on modern-day psychology from the philosophical perspective.



     As a result of the tremendous influence of both these fields on psychology, there once was an ongoing debate as to whether psychology is a science or an art.



     Basically, I believe that psychology is a mixture of both science and philosophy. I believe that one discipline without the other would not do justice to the field of psychology at all.



     Psychology is not a hard science like chemistry or physics. It is known as a soft science because it does not postulate scientific laws governing nature.



     Human nature is so complex people don't always react in the same way, thus making it extremely difficult to establish laws.



     For a science to be called a pure science or hard science, you must have laws that you can prove over and over again. For example, gravity is a law of nature. If you let go of a pencil in midair it will always fall making it a law of physics.



     Conversely, to use depression as an example from the realm of psychology, many people may have symptoms of depression but these people will not experience it in quite the same way. It is for this reason that the hard nose scientists laugh at psychology.

 



     In defense of my field, what psychology does do is use the scientific method.

 

 

 

     Psychologists test their theories using the scientific method of research. They will create experiments and measure the results. For example, if a psychologist deems that a person has depression, it is not because he or she felt like it, pulled it out of his or her bag as a possible diagnosis, or thought it sounded good. The diagnosis is based on scientific study and years of research in the field.

 



     However, since humans are different from the elements, you cannot treat them as such. Just as I said before, a pencil will always fall if dropped in midair. However, a person has a thinking process that affects every decision that he or she makes in life and these mental processes will affect the outcome of
depression and affect their mood. Because of the additional influences of human thinking in reaction to various physical symptoms such as depression, the truisms found in philosophy must factor in to the psychological evaluation as well.

 

 

 

     The field of psychology became a recognized discipline in Europe in the mid 1800s. The first psychologists were German. They scientifically studied the physical reactions of the body when experiencing pain and formulated theories about reaching pain thresholds, etc. They did this by scientific means. They chose to study physical changes in the body by measuring sweat, and heart rhythms etc. They attempted to establish scientific data to explain and back up the body's reaction to pain.

 



     They also studied how people learn with regards to their thinking processes, again by using the scientific method and measuring the subjects responses in memory tests.

 



     Later, people like Dr. Sigmund Freud, who was a medical doctor, proposed theories about human nature with regard to how humans think and feel, which he combined with the scientific (medical) knowledge of the day.

 



     As a result, the division in psychology became apparent way back then. You had the scientists (the learning people), who were strictly concerned with physical aspects; and the clinicians, such as Freud, who studied the philosophical aspect and combined it with scientific study.

 



     Today in
universities you can choose to go into scientific psychology, which is pure research work, or clinical psychology where you will have patients and treat their various concerns.

 



     Since I love people and understanding how we tick, I decided to go into clinical psychology.

 

 

 

     In our university, the psychology students were very competitive and there was a rivalry going on between the students who elected research (scientific) and the students such as myself who preferred the clinical aspects of psychology.

 

 

 

     I nicknamed the scientific psychology students and their professors the "rat people."

 



     These "rat people" are the people who experiment with rats and are responsible for helping to find cures for cancer, AIDS, etc. They work in conjunction with the medical field; chemistry, biology, etc., to finds cures for human ailments, including drug addiction and alcoholism. You name it and there will be research about it. These psychologists and students of psychology almost never see people. They don't have clients, they conduct experiments in the laboratory and they work with animals,
studying their behavior to various stimuli. In using animals as test subjects they create models that can be applied to human nature. They not only help find cures for human diseases that way, they formulate theories about how humans learn by reacting to their environment and they aid in the research of veterinary sciences.

 

 

     Incidentally, the research done by the "rat people" bring in big government research grants for American and Canadian universities; they are the big moneymakers. American and Canadian
universities are world leaders in the area of scientific psychology research. Our governments pour millions of dollars into this type of research.

 



     Other psychologists in the scientific stream research the behaviour of people rather than animals. For example, they may study the effects of the element of surprise introduced into a group setting, or test babies (developmental psychology) to see if they are responding to different stimuli the way they should at each stage of development.

 



     These psychologists, who are scientists, are not necessarily oriented toward individual clients. Their focus is to study groups and formulate theories about what is normal behaviour for that group.

 



     Earlier, we talked about the division between science and philosophy that launched the great debate on whether or not psychology is a science or an art. The debate stemmed from the fact that psychology borrows from the sciences as well as from the great philosophical minds of all time.

 

 

     We have talked about the scientific contributions to psychology and now we will turn our focus to clinicians, the people who deal with clients and listen to their emotional and cognitive needs. Clinica l psychology has its roots in philosophy rather than medicine. Clinical psychologists are primarily interested in the individual client. They take the theories that the research psychologists formulate and apply them on an individual level (applied psychology).

 

 



     As I have said before, if a psychologist diagnosed someone with depression, he or she just did not pull the diagnosis out of a hat. The counselor or psychologist uses scientific research as a basis for the diagnosis, but then takes the theories one step further. The counselor uses his/her knowledge of research to help the client ameliorate his/her situation.

 

 



     Using the
depression example, the clinician would know from the research that clinically depressed people (the most severe depression cases) don't really want to do anything; they are totally unmotivated, apathetic, and lethargic. Therefore, getting them to start doing things helps alleviate the depression. Knowing this, a clinician will sit down with the client and talk about different things that the client would like to do as part of therapy. For one client it might be swimming, for another it might be using the Internet, etc.

 

 



     In summary, there are two main divisions of psychology: scientific and clinical. Under each division, there are hundreds of fields of studies. The particular division of psychology that I studied at the masters' level was clinical; the sub-division was counseling psychology.

 

 



     For the most part, the clinical psychologist deals with the most severe mental disorders such as schizophrenia, major depression, dissociative identity disorder, which is basically the same clientele for psychiatrists.

 

 

     Okay, by introducing psychiatrists it begs the question what is the different between the two. Simply stated, a psychiatrist is a medical doctor who has taken special training in the workings of the mind and he/she understands that human mental disorders originate from a biological malfunction. Furthermore, he or she is also authorized to prescribe
drugs to correct or ameliorate this disorder.

 

 

 

     On the other hand, the clinical psychologist is not a medical doctor. He/she has studied the workings of the mind but only has a psychology degree, not a medical degree. Without a medical degree, the psychologist is not authorized to prescribe drugs.

 

 

 

     The counselor or counseling psychologist's focus is not on abnormal human behaviour as in the heavy-duty mental disorders, but their focus is concerned with normal behaviour. Therefore counselors and counselling psychologists work with people who have everyday issues or concerns experienced by the general population.

 



     The first counselors were guidance counselors in
schools and universities who dealt with issues that students face. The discipline has now extended to clinical psychology.

 



     You will find counselors in schools, clinics, community centers, hospitals, businesses—just about anywhere. Counselors deal with a wide variety of issues, such as problems in school, marital and family relationships, grief counseling,
career counseling, depression, self-esteem issues; the list goes on and on.

 

 

 

 

     I completed my internship in a psychiatric hospital where I counseled clients who had symptoms of schizophrenia. I have a master's in counseling psychology, so I am a counselor and not a counseling psychologist. To earn the title psychologist you must have a PhD. I could have a PhD under what is known as the grandfather clause by taking an extra year of study. Before NAFTA I would have been a psychologist already.

 



     Each of these professional provide therapy, for the psychiatrist therapy would include drug therapy. However, for psychologists and counselors alike, therapy is basically applying the scientific theories of psychology to everyday life and coming up with a plan to help your client, such as the one previously given for depression.

 



     To date, there are over 350 different therapies out there. Of course no one individual therapist was ever trained in all of them. But they are out there; good, bad or otherwise.

 



     Some of these therapies work better than others, making it difficult for a person seeking help to really know who to go to. When you have cancer you go to a cancer specialist, but when you need to see a psychologist or counselor it is not easy to find the right one.

 

 

 

     Consequently, it is required by law that when seeking a psychologist or counselor, the professional must tell you his or her particular brand of psychology and what he or she plans to accomplish with you through the use of it. At that point, a prospective client can decide if this is the type of therapy that he or she feels will help; or the client can start therapy and choose afterwards based on results.

 

 

 

Copyright © Carol Roach, M.Ed, B.A.

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Psychology and the African Violet Lady [ Part III ]

By

 Carol Roach

Author of: “Picking Up the Pieces: A Woman’s Journey” and “Angels Watching Over Me”

 

 

 

 

 

 

Some Widely Known Therapies

 


     Continuing from Psychology and The African Violet Lady Part II, I am going to continue this rather long article with examples of how different psychologists and counselors would treat
depression through the use of different therapies and end with a therapy originated from one of my favourite psychiatrists, Dr. Milton Erickson.

 



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     To treat depression, different therapists will use different theories.

 



     1) A psychiatrist or a biologically oriented psychologist would find the answer in drug therapy.

 



     It is believed that the chemical called serotonin found in the brain is responsible for our moods. When there is not enough of this chemical circulating in the brain, a person becomes depressed. Hence,
drugs are introduced into the brain to correct the chemical imbalance. For example, Prozac is a serotonin uptake inhibitor.

 

 

     What happens in normal brain activity is that the chemical serotonin is found in the nerves of the brain. Serotonin travels through the specialized nerve called a neuron, to an area beyond the neuron called a synapse. The synapse is the open space between two neurons. During brain functioning, serotonin is then returned to the neuron after a certain length of time.

 

 

     According to this theory, this mood regulator (serotonin) does not remain in the synapse long enough before it is returned to the neuron to start the process over again. The result is a chemical imbalance in the brain leading to
symptoms of depression.

 



     Prozac is a medication that makes the serotonin stay longer in the synapse by slowing down the process so that the individual will get the full effects of this brain chemical in order to restore normal brain functioning.

 

 

     2) Many psychologists will say that serotonin affects mood and mood affects how we think as well as how we feel. Emotive psychologists would be concerned with how you feel (your mood). They would listen to you talk about your feelings. They want to know why you are depressed. They emphasize catharsis (first introduced by Sigmund Freud).

 

 

 

     Catharsis is the emptying out of the soul, the act of "getting it off your chest" in hopes that once you express all this pent-up emotion, you will be better able to cope with depression, or whatever else ails you, and most  importantly you will be able to move on.

 

 

 

     It is postulated that keeping emotions inside tends to make a person "stuck or blocked" from moving on and coping with life.

 



     These emotive based counselors and psychologists encourage the client to voice his/her feelings. They are very empathic and may even cry with you.

 



     If you want a sounding board and totally unconditional support these are the people for you.

 



     3) A psychoanalyst, who again can be a psychiatrist or psychologist, is trained under the influence of Freud and Jung and would want to know all about your childhood, basing his/her queries on the theory that everything we do and think is influenced by our childhood experiences.

 



     The psychoanalyst feels that the root of today's
depression stems from some childhood trauma and by getting to the bottom of it, and by understanding the root of the problem, the client will be able to change his/her present depressed state of mind.

 



     I am not a psychoanalyst and have not studied the area very much. However, I find that the problem with this kind of therapy is that it takes years in some cases to understand your roots to the extent that it helps. I find also that just understanding what makes you feel a certain way does not show you how to apply this newfound knowledge.

 



     For example, having gone through the process in my own life, I knew the reasons why I had low self-esteem, yet I did not know how to change it.

 



     For the most part, psychoanalysis is outdated. There are just about 20% of professionals (psychologists, not to be mistaken with psychiatrists) who practice it today in North America, most of whom are centered here in Montreal.

 

 

 

     Most psychologists and counselors today feel that it is not important to deal with past issues to that extent. What is important is what is happening right now.

 

 


     4) The gestalt therapists will not allow you to talk about your past at all. The "here and now" is what they are concerned with. They feel the answers to today's issues must be treated in the present context.

 

 


     With insurance companies paying for psychologists, often time the clients of today do not have more than 10 sessions available to them. Therefore, dwelling on the past would take up too much time.  Gestalt Therapy postulates that the sum of the whole is equal to the sum of its parts. In other words, you have to connect all the little parts of your life together, before you have "a whole person", you cannot leave anything undone.

 



     Another way of looking at this is to think of a piano keyboard after a pianist has played just one note. That one note does not stand for much on its own, nor does playing a bunch of notes with no focus or direction. In fact a bunch of incongruent notes might sound pretty wild. However, if you play a series of notes together in perfect harmony you have a beautiful melody. You need every note to make that melody beautiful. Without any one of the notes, the music would be incomplete or just plain awful.

 

 

     Gestalt people want to know everything that is happening in the now to get the total picture. They pay attention to the small issues (notes) that can be affecting the entire melody of your life.

 



     As a result of time restrictions imposed by insurance companies, a new therapy known as brief psychology was founded.

 



     5) Brief psychology therapists are also concerned with the "here and now". Their focus is on what a client can do to change what is happening now as quickly as possible. They may apply the theories of:

 



     6) Behavioural psychologists who state that to change your thinking you must first do something different. For example, lying around the house and feeling sorry for yourself will not change your
depression but getting out and doing something will. They believe we are conditioned to think and act the way we do. Some of these conditions become bad habits that need to be changed.

 

 

     Brief Therapy specialists rely heavily on:

 



     7) Cognitive psychology (thinking and logic) the rational approach. Cognitive psychologist states that to change our behaviour we must change our thinking. Note that this approach is the total opposite of behavioural psychology where you change your behaviour first and the thinking will then fall in place. Cognitive psychologists’ state somewhere along the line our thinking processes have become cloudy, and we become maladaptive to our environment.
For example, a person refuses to go down a certain street to get home. The client's rationale for this is that a bad man might live on that street. According to the cognitive psychologists this fear is an irrational belief, when not founded by documented proof. A bad man might live there does not mean a bad man does live there and not going down the street with little or no reason could prove cumbersome for the client, especially if it means that the client must take an alternative route that is longer or more cumbersome to get to his/her destination.

 

 



     Cognitive psychologists believe that you would never be able to go out and do something if you still feel depressed, so they would concentrate on logic, pointing out to you that being depressed is affecting your coping skills, ruining your life, stopping you from doing the things you were destined to do. I know this sounds confusing but the difference is that in strict behavioral psychology, you have to do something first to change your thinking, in strict cognitive psychology you must change your thinking first to do something. In behavioural psychology the answer is A, change behaviour, In cognitive psychology they are saying no the answer is B, change your thinking.

 

 

     Many psychologists often combine the two approaches of behaviour and cognitive psychology to form:

 



     8) Cognitive Behavioural psychology theories.

 

 

     In combining both approaches the cognitive behavioural psychologists are saying it takes both approaches to facilitate change. Therefore, A = Behaviour and B = Thinking to produce C = Change (A + B = C).

 



     These cognitive behavioural psychologists postulate that once you understand, you would be motivated to start doing things and bring yourself to the stage that you want a happy, healthy, and live a normal life.

 



     Cognitive psychologists may sometimes be abrupt, giving you the impression that they are trying to "shake some sense into you." They don't always come across with the same degree of empathy that emotive therapists have.

 



     In actual fact, they are no less empathetic; they just use a different approach to reach their client's understanding and needs.

 

 

 

     As a recap, a cognitive psychologist would say you must change your thinking first in order for the unwanted behaviour to change; which is the direct opposite approach of a behavioural psychologist, who says change, your behaviour first and your thinking will follow. Hence a cognitive behavioural psychologist would combine both approaches to say you need to change your thinking as well as your behaviour to effectuate positive change. It gets confusing doesn't it?
I am an eclectic therapist; meaning I use what ever approach I know and sense that the client in front of me needs, I do have a bias towards cognitive psychology but will be empathic, analytical, logical, take the kick in the butt so to speak approach or whatever I feel is needed at the time.

 

 

 

     Stay tuned for the end of The African Violet Lady Story as best I remember it…

 

 

 

 

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